5 Things Women Secretly Want In Bed
By Vanessa Burton
Ah, discussing sex with women is quite an interesting experience. Just the other day, I asked one of my girl friends what she secretly wants her man to do to her in bed. Her reply was not what I expected. She basically had a list of errors.
"Well, he never kisses me when we make love. I hate that. Then there's the fact that he rarely, if ever, goes down on me. And if that's not terrible enough, he's done before I even get wet."
Yeah, enough with the whining already, I'm certain he has his own list as well, although I would never tell her that. Nevertheless, that's when I realized that perhaps I should word the question a little differently.
"No," I said, "what I mean is, do you have a secret sexual desire that you wish he could just telepathically pick up on?" And that's when the conversation intensified...
girls almost gone wild
It's so interesting how many women blame men when the sex is bad, but never think that perhaps they sucked, or didn't , as the case may be. Nevertheless, after hearing what girlfriends, colleagues, roommates, and virtual strangers had to say, I think I can definitely give men worldwide a list of lustful fantasies that perhaps even your woman is wishing you'd do to her at this very moment.
Here goes nothing, but please keep in mind that I didn't keep track of all the women I spoke to. However, if many women said similar things, or if I heard something very interesting, it's here.
1- Focus on her entirely
It may sound like less of a fantasy and more of a sex tip, but a lot of women want their men to focus on their entire bodies. "I want him to lick and kiss everything from my ankles to the small of my back. I want him to arouse sensations that come from somewhere other than my vagina," said one woman.
Maybe spending a little time on her inner thigh or kissing her wrist is not such a bad idea. And by doing so, she will likely do it to you as well, and who knows, maybe penetration will take a backseat to sensation.
2- Longer, more vocal oral sex
Whether it's for you or her, women want a whole lot more of the mouth in the south. To my surprise, many women were keen on performing for their men as well (many in hopes of reciprocation). What they secretly wanted was directions. Now I don't mean "no, no left, now a little to the right, now go up, down, up, down, oh yeah," but rather describing how and why you like it when she's down there. And noise; women secretly want to hear you making all kinds of pleasant noises that assure them that they're doing a good, uh, job.
Now, on to your deeds down there. What do women secretly want? They want you to get deep down in there with your mouth, use your fingers, and when necessary, penetrate her with your penis for a little while, and then get busy again with your mouth.
3- Treat her like a prostitute
Ah, fantasies, the beauty of them lies in the fact that many are not realized. But as one woman put it: "I am tired of being that precious lady in the bedroom. I'm tired of 'making love' and doing things gently all the time. I want him to have raunchy sex with me and talk to me as though he just met me and cares nothing about what I want. I want him to ravish me like an animal and tell me to be quiet whenever I try to say something." Wow!
I guess, in the end, there are plenty of women who want to be, for lack of a better word, slutty in the bedroom. They simply fear that if they behave in such a manner, then their men will think less of them, and some are even afraid that their men will mistakenly begin treating them differently outside the bedroom as well. All the same, many women are big fans of scenarios such as the one described.
4- Curse like a sailor
In the spirit of being vocal, believe it or not, dirty talk was mentioned quite often. But it wasn't the flowery variety; the talk that many women wanted was downright nasty. I guess tame bedroom antics went out with everlasting marriages.
The colorful language they were using had these women blushing, but their candidness was much appreciated. Of course, I can't write any of it here without being censored, but I'm certain you can use your imagination on this one.
5- Get aggressive in bed
Just about every woman I encountered had the words "more aggressive sex" rolling off her tongue. From being tied up and spanked to having their hair pulled and being mildly asphyxiated, the women were quite enthusiastic about aggressive sex.
Of course, I'm not implying that you should go home and smack your bitch up, but instead, maybe a little roughing in the bedroom can work wonders for your sex life. And if that's not enough, these women didn't simply want their men to be more aggressive; they wanted to, on occasion, be the aggressor.
weird sexual fantasy
Although only one woman discussed the following, I thought it worthy of mention because rarely have I heard such a thing. This particular lady in her 30s secretly wanted her man to taste his own semen.
Now before you stop reading in complete and utter disgust, she explained that she had been in many relationships with men; men whom she thought were sexually open to trying new things. Unfortunately, whenever she would swallow their semen, such men wouldn't go near her mouth.
Not only was she insulted, but she couldn't understand how a man wouldn't be curious about the way he tasted. After all, she had no problem kissing him when he finished licking her up. But to this day, no man has fulfilled her secret desire to kiss right after she swallows. Interesting, don't you think?
And don't worry, I know that there are plenty of men out there who have no problem tasting their own semen, or snowballing for that matter. Unfortunately, this particular woman has yet to meet you.
be more open about sex
Of course, I did what I could to encourage these women to follow through on what they want to do in the bedroom by voicing their sexual desires. But in the end, it's up to them to do it and it's also up to you to find these things out in your own relationship.
Start communicating more openly about sex and you may end up discovering that your woman is more than willing to try new and interesting things. Enjoy.
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